Thursday, November 20, 2008

Social Mathematics

Sometimes one needs an outside perspective to see a situation clearly.

The following situation is true. I have a surprising number of male readers, and I am hoping they will weigh in on this. And all you lurkers? Yeah, you too. Feel free to chime in. Think of this as a NATUI-style Mastercard Commercial. Add this up for me. Tell me what it tells you.

A girl in her early thirties.

Meets a guy.

They have their first date, and they fuck all weekend.

Two weeks later, she calls to tell him she's pregnant.

It is her second pregnancy this year by two different men.

She has masses of credit card debt and has filed for bankruptcy.

The guy is sticking by her and said he was going to tell his mom and sisters.

By all reports they love her and are so happy that that she's his new girlfriend.

Turns out that they've met her, but he hasn't told them that she is knocked up yet.

How's that for some shit? You all know that I am praying for male birth control. For me, this clinches it. How about you?


A Free Man said...

Not to be all sexist, but because this is her second pregnancy in two years by two different men, doesn't that argue for female birth control? Or just some self control. Or just some fucking common sense.

KJ said...

I think its a good argument for birth control of any kind, male or female.

Female condom...$2.50
Large box of Trojans...$18.00
Tubal ligation...$2000.00

Just some fucking common sense...Priceless.

holly* said...

kat forgot to add in the cost of raising the cost. i havent figured out the finally tally yet, but i can say expensive.

and afm has a point. i mean, knock me up once, shame on you. knock me up twice, shame on me. i know its not the same dude, so thats strictly for the lady in this senario. how about an IUD. not that expensive and pretty fool proof.

and who was watching her kid while she fucked all week end?!?!?! seriously! i'm lucky to get a 2am quicky before husband passes out...

holly* said...

erm, i meant kat forgot to add in the total cost of raising the kid...

Anonymous said...

i am so for male birth control. and for male and female having equal maternity rights. just saying.

Blue Momma said...

scary as the mom of a boy, huh?

We somehow have to teach them to keep it in their pants - or wrap it up!!!

Of course being an old mom the only way I'll ever get to play with my own grandkids is if Punkin knocks up some chick when he is about 12.

So never mind what I said before....

Anonymous said...

With the internet and HDTV and texting all sorts of shit at all times of the day, I didn't think kids had sex anymore . . .

Not Afraid to Use It said...

@AFM: You are right, it does. But as I pointed out in my other linked post, even being on the pill in no way guarantees that it is effective. She should have been on the pill, and he should have had his hat on. Esp. on the first damned date.

I think I focused on the male bc side because in my mind it is a given that she should have been on the pill. I guess that is just a factor of my growing up female in the US. Too many experiences of seeing a girl get preggers and all the blame is on the girl. In this case, I think the blame is DEF on her, but it was equally his responsibility to use a condom.

@Kat: Ah, the common sense factor. Sadly, I think she was out to lunch when god passed that particular skill out.

@Hollystar: There isn't another kid because she had miscarriage very early on. Various substances attributed to that.

@SSG: Yup, and double yup.

@Blue Momma: Yes, as the mom of a boy it scares the shit out of me, too. Except this "boy" is 36. I don't know that that makes it better. Like I said, they are both equally responsible.

Patois42 said...

Just because there is birth control out there doesn't mean anyone will use it.

RiverPoet said...

Oh wow, so you've met my little sister? (j/k)

All I can say, again, is WOW.

Peace - D

Unknown said...

Why am I not surprised he hadn't told them she's knocked? Oh, maybe because they were SO HAPPY? Hmm..

Toasty said...

LOL, River Poet! NATUI, am I missing something? I don't get the part about him not telling his mom and sister.

Mouthy Girl said...

Dear God.

Holy crow.

I had a conversation with a 17 year old yesterday - in front of his grandmother. It went something like this:

"You. Listen to me. Whenever you have sex, you WILL use a condom."

"I do."

"Yeah. Just LISTEN. You will use a condom every time and will NOT believe any girl who tells you that she's on birth control. The least of your problems would be a baby."

I thought grandma would fall over dead from laughing. The kid? He wa MORTIFIED. I followed up with, "You never thought you'd be having this conversation with me when you had me 7 years ago in the 6th grade, did you"

Not Afraid to Use It said...

@Patois: You are right. And this post is the perfect example of that.

@RiverPoet: Ah...yet one more thing we have in common.

@Lindsay: Hey! Now they know! You'll get the scoop tomorrow.

@Toasty: Glad to clarify! He introduced her has his girlfriend, or someone new he is seeing. But he didn't tell them that she was already pregnant with his baby. I think he wanted to ease into it.

@Buddha_Girl: And THAT is why you will be having that same talk with both of my kids.

Gypsy said...

This math adds up to paternity test to me.

Irrational Dad said...

Look, I'll be the first to admit that there's much that I don't know or understand about women... Ut, if a woman told me she was preggers after TWO WEEKS, I'd tell her that she's flippin' crazy, and demand a pat test the minute the baby was born.